Why Saying “Sorry” Isn’t Enough

Imagine yourself at Starbucks, and someone passing by knocks over your double latte. The offender then flippantly responds with “Sorry, didn’t mean to do it”—and keeps on walking out of the store. While the above scene is certainly infuriating for the person with coffee in their lap, a slight from a stranger will likely pass Read More…

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Did You Marry Your Parent?

It doesn’t happen literally; that would be illegal in most states, I think. But, it can happen in spirit – and more often than many people think: actually being in a relationship with someone who has certain physical or personality traits similar to one of their parents. The qualities usually favor one parent over the Read More…

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Are You Relying On Your Partner to Make you Happy?

Earlier this month Seth Adam Smith posted a thought-provoking article on his blog, which you can read here: http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/. The premise of his article, titled “Marriage Isn’t For You” is that you don’t get married to make yourself happy, but to make your partner happy. Love and marriage is all about the other person and Read More…

Do You Know How to Bridge that Great Divide?

Late last winter I met with one couple who were very distant from one another. Interestingly, they weren’t fighting very often (but did from time to time)!  They were however, so disconnected from one another that it was as if they lived in separate homes.  They had two young children and yet had been married Read More…

Does Your Relationship Need Ground Rules?

Earlier this year I was working with one couple who were struggling mightily in their relationship.  They had been married more than a few years, yet both were left feeling somewhat unstable in their relationship.  They both felt “on edge” and it was only partially related to the frequent conflict they endured. The “D” Word Read More…

The Five “W”s of Financial Infidelity

What is financial infidelity? The level or nature of financial infidelity varies from couple to couple and is partly relative to the couple’s financial situation. Generally, it involves spending, borrowing, or stashing away a significant sum of money without your partner’s knowledge. This is often done through credit cards, especially when the account information is Read More…

Emotional Affairs: 5 Signs You May be Vulnerable

Not all affairs are physical. But that doesn’t mean an emotional affair is any less serious because of a lack of sexual contact. Emotional affairs betray a partner’s trust and make it difficult to regain closeness and intimacy within your relationship. For some people, women especially, it can be even harder to recover from an Read More…

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5 Steps to Revitalize Your Relationship

There are many reasons why a couple may lose the passion in their relationship. These can vary from a natural cooling, over time, as the honeymoon phase ends; to complacency; to something as extreme as an affair. Whatever the reason, it is certainly possible to recover that spark of intimacy if the following steps are Read More…

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Is It Possible to Make a Full Recovery After an Affair?

It may not be a surprise to find that the answer to this question is yes. If it weren’t possible, there would be no need to write about it (or it would prove to be a fairly short article). What may actually be surprising, however, is learning that the couple who stays together after an Read More…

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Jealous Monster

Kailee needed to know how to deal with jealousy. Not her husband’s—her own. She knew it was getting in the way. She knew she was becoming more and more impossible to deal with. In her better moments she could admit that it wasn’t Will’s fault. But the jealousy was there, eating her up. They were Read More…

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