Is the Midlife Crisis a Myth?

You very likely have heard stories about someone in their forties or fifties buying a flashy new car or in some way attempting to recapture a part of their youth. It’s generally been referred to as the midlife crisis. For many decades it has been mostly understood that happiness declines from the 20s to middle Read More…

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How to Get the Most out of Premarital Counseling

Premarital counseling is on the rise, as more and more engaged couples include it on their checklist of things to do before the “Big Day.” Unfortunately, many couples still don’t recognize the potential benefits premarital counseling could have on their future. Until recently, it’s not been viewed as important, unless you belonged to a church Read More…

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9 Steps to Forgiveness

Carrying resentments and holding grudges requires energy. These emotional burdens not only impact our psychological health, but research shows that holding grudges actually exerts a toll on our physical health as well. So how do we let go of our resentments and grudges? Why do we hold grudges in the first place? And why are Read More…

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7 Steps to End Loneliness in a Relationship

The vision of having a special long-term partner or spouse in your life does not always live up to the reality that many experience. Unfortunately, being in a committed relationship does not guarantee that you’ll feel closely connected, satisfied, or fulfilled. Research shows that about 20% of the general population admits to being lonely, and Read More…

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Did You Overlook Any of These Relationship Warning Signs?

When we first start dating someone, it’s easy to overlook traits that might seem like obvious red flags to outsiders. In the early stages of a new relationship, we are automatically drawn to the most appealing qualities of our partner. If we do notice anything disagreeable, it is often quickly dismissed as “something I can Read More…

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Increasing Emotional Intelligence

Increasing Emotional Intelligence for Better Relationships

There are a wide variety of factors that are important in order to have a harmonious and happy relationship. Educational, religious, familial, and goal compatibilities are certainly important, among numerous others. However, recent research suggests that a high level of emotional intelligence (EI) is also a valuable component to deep personal connections and happier relationships. Read More…

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WHY SAYING SORRY (1)

Why Saying “Sorry” Isn’t Enough

Imagine yourself at Starbucks, and someone passing by knocks over your double latte. The offender then flippantly responds with “Sorry, didn’t mean to do it”—and keeps on walking out of the store. While the above scene is certainly infuriating for the person with coffee in their lap, a slight from a stranger will likely pass Read More…

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Did You Marry Your Parent?

It doesn’t happen literally; that would be illegal in most states, I think. But, it can happen in spirit – and more often than many people think: actually being in a relationship with someone who has certain physical or personality traits similar to one of their parents. The qualities usually favor one parent over the Read More…

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Are You Relying On Your Partner to Make you Happy?

Earlier this month Seth Adam Smith posted a thought-provoking article on his blog, which you can read here: http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/. The premise of his article, titled “Marriage Isn’t For You” is that you don’t get married to make yourself happy, but to make your partner happy. Love and marriage is all about the other person and Read More…

Do You Know How to Bridge that Great Divide?

Late last winter I met with one couple who were very distant from one another. Interestingly, they weren’t fighting very often (but did from time to time)!  They were however, so disconnected from one another that it was as if they lived in separate homes.  They had two young children and yet had been married Read More…