In my work, I see dozens of couples each year. A majority of those couples have struggled to stay calm during conflictual interactions. When the intensity level gets too high, these couples automatically lose the ability to have a productive conversation with one another.   What Happens When We Fail to Lower the Intensity? When

In the normal ups and downs of a committed relationship, amid work stress and family life issues, couples can struggle to feel connected to one another. Yet, according to research from Southern Methodist University, partners are actually good at recognizing when their partner is angry or happy. However, where they really struggle is at picking

The statement, “Men like to fix things and women like to listen,” follows a general stereotype. Yet it also contains quite a bit of truth as well. Of course, no one likes to see their partner in pain. Typically, men first respond by trying to fix the situation. However, attempting to fix things can lead

There are many variables important in creating a healthy relationship: being compatible with one another, having mutual interests, and sharing similar values are important. However, one quality stands out amongst the others: making up and smoothing things over after an argument. Dr. John Gottman refers to this as the ability to “repair” a relationship after a

Many couples enjoy spending time with other couples. In fact, for many, spending time with two or more couples tends to make up most of their social engagement, particularly men. Stereotypically, unmarried or single males might socialize a little more, but not by much.  Research shows that there are benefits for couples who socialize with

So you’re engaged and set to be married in a year. Your aunt pulls you aside to say that she has the secret to a successful marriage. She goes on to say that the secret is even supported by scientific research. The question is, would you listen?   The Research It turns out your aunt