Your Relationship Ended. Does That Make You a Failure?

In my practice, it is unfortunately common for clients to end up blaming themselves when their relationship ends. This is especially true after a breakup when they sometimes will even consider themselves a failure. For some clients with depressive tendencies, the breakup can trigger a negative thinking spiral where they become hyper-focused on their faults Read More…

3 Reasons Why Women are More Likely than Men to End a Relationship

While it is established that about half of all marriages end in divorce, it is commonly assumed that the breakups are initiated by both genders equally. In fact, it is surprising to most people that women are actually more likely to end their marriages than men.   The Research Research by Dr. Michael Rosenfeld, a Read More…

It’s Not Just Your Imagination – Your Exes are Really Similar

Many of us realize that we are attracted to certain physical and personality traits in a partner. Being drawn to potential partners with blonde hair, a sense of humor, and who are physically active are some examples. Intuitively, we have a sense that we are drawn to certain types of people over and over again. If Read More…

Can You be just as Happy Staying Single?

A study published last month in the journal Social, Psychological and Personality Science addressed the age-old question: Does being in a relationship make you happier? It’s a general myth, accepted by most of society, that relationship status is tied into happiness. When couples break up and marriages dissolve, there is often implicit pressure on each Read More…

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7 Important Steps to Follow Before Dating Again

So you’ve survived the breakup (if not, see breakup survival tips here) and are now wondering if it’s time to look around for a new partner. Maybe it’s been a while since you’ve checked out the dating scene and you’re struggling with how to go about it. You may also not be sure how quickly Read More…

9 Relationship Breakup Survival Tips

So you just broke up, feel devastated and distraught over your loss, and are not sure what to do. Friends and family try to help by encouraging you to “move on, it’s over.” Their unspoken message is often to “quit thinking and talking about it,” and start moving forward with your life. Your friends and Read More…

12 Reasons Why You’re Not Ready! (To be in a Relationship)

Entering into a serious and committed relationship is not something to be taken lightly. It’s important to examine why exactly you’re seeking an intimate commitment, and make sure you’re ready for this life change. Consider whether any of the following “red flag” situations might apply to you. Let them serve as a warning that you Read More…

Online Dating Works for Many, but there are Alternatives!

Online dating, without question, has proven to be enormously successful (not to mention a multi-million dollar industry). According to research conducted from 2007 to 2009 by Reuben J. Thomas, a sociologist at City College of New York, approximately 23% of couples met online. (Click here for the full report) Almost a quarter of all couples Read More…

The Darkest Time Of Your Life

The Darkest Time Of Your Life Helpless Tears Elaine couldn’t stop crying. It was so stupid: she wasn’t a kid anymore. She knew about relationship breakup. She’d even broken up before. But this time it hurt somewhere deep: it felt like something had broken that would never be mended, ever again. Her friends were all Read More…

New Foundations

Tonya had thought her relationship with Lee was perfect. He liked what she liked. He wanted what she wanted. What she did, he did. Then, one day, he announced that as far as he was concerned it was a complete relationship breakdown and he was packing his bags. She stood in the hall of their Read More…